Studies have shown that stay-at-home mothers work the equivalent of 2.5 full-time jobs. No matter how many little ones you have at home, there’s always an endless list of things to do, places to go, and people to take care of.
While being a stay-at-home mom can often feel like a blessing, it doesn’t come without its challenges. So many challenges, in fact, that it can take a toll on your mental health.
It shouldn’t come as a surprise, then, that many stay-at-home mothers deal with depression and feelings of hopelessness.
If that sounds familiar, know that you’re not alone. There are things you can do to cope with depression and find peace, happiness, and joy in the everyday routine of being home with your kids.
Acknowledge Your Feelings
One of the most important things you can do to cope with depression as a mother is to acknowledge it.
You might feel like you have to put everyone else’s needs above your own. You’re always caring for your kids, your partner, your home, etc. However, if you’re pushing aside your own feelings or trying to ignore them so you can focus on everyone else, you’re doing more harm than good.
While it’s possible to suppress emotions for a while, they will always end up coming forward. The longer you try to deny your depression, the stronger it’s likely to become. It’s okay to admit you’re struggling – it’s the first step toward healing.
Lean On Your Support System
Being a stay-at-home mom can often feel lonely and isolating. You’re with your children for hours each day, and you probably don’t get much adult interaction.
It’s important to reach out and stay connected with the people in your life who care about you.
Spend time with family members and friends, and lean on your partner for support. That doesn’t mean you have to spend less time with your kids. Consider going out to lunch once a week with your friend and their children, as well as your own. Or, set up play dates with neighbours so you can interact with their parents.
If you’re really struggling with depression, open up to your partner about it. Even if they work outside of the home, they can be more present for you when they get home from work, and do more to interact and communicate so you don’t feel so alone.
If you don’t have a partner, close friends, or family support, find a community of support. There are other mothers in the same boat. Ask on community social media groups and build a community of support for yourself and others.
Practice Self-Care
Self-care isn’t selfish. In fact, it’s a necessity. It looks different for everyone, so it’s important to find self-care habits that work for you. That might include exercising, journaling, cooking healthy meals, yoga, or meditating.
Even if you can only squeeze in a few minutes of self-care each day, you’ll notice a difference in your mood. Try to make it a part of your daily routine, and don’t be afraid to try different things you might think you’ll enjoy.
Reach Out for Help
Depression can feel like a deep hole that’s impossible to crawl out of on your own. Thankfully, you don’t have to. If you’re really struggling and your feelings are starting to have a negative impact on your life, consider getting professional help.
Talking to a therapist can help you uncover the root cause of your depression. Therapy will also make it easier to manage your symptoms and eventually overcome those intrusive, negative thoughts.
If you’re a stay-at-home mom struggling with depression, don’t feel as though you have to keep things to yourself. You don’t have to be “strong” for everyone else. Take care of your mental well-being first, and you’ll be a more present and energetic mother to your children.
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