If you were asked to name all the attributes you desire in a partner, where would validating appear on your list? Would it even be included? You see, plenty of folks will justifiably talk about trust, honesty, open-mindedness, and more. But there’s just not enough conversation about the art of…
There are many obvious reasons why you and your partner are not having sex lately. For example, having young children in the house, busy schedules, or working many hours can put a damper on intimacy for a while. Typically, when the stress-inducing factor has eased, your libido kicks back in.…
There’s been an unfortunate stigma around couples counseling for years. Some people believe it’s a last-ditch effort to salvage a relationship. Other people believe it’s a sign of weakness or mistrust. If there’s a stereotype to be found, couples therapy has likely fallen under its umbrella. Unfortunately, these stigmas and…
When you’re in a relationship with an emotionally distant partner, you might feel like you’re on a rollercoaster of emotions yourself. Maybe you feel like you’re the only one putting effort into your relationship. You might even feel like your partner is cold and doesn’t really care about you. The…
It seems obvious that infertility will affect one’s mental state. We live in a culture that casually expects every couple to have kids eventually. Therefore, complete strangers or family might comment with something like, “What a great mother you’re going to be!” To add this kind of incidental triggering, there’s…
The death of an infant just might be the most heartbreaking moment anyone can experience. Whether the loss happens suddenly or after a prolonged illness, such a loss is virtually unimaginable. Yet, despite the jolting nature of this scenario, it’s not exactly rare. Each year, almost 1 in 5 pregnancies…
Nobody likes mixed messages. Meanwhile, the very society we live in can’t seem to make up its mind about work-life balance. Is life all about the grind, or does true value lie in slowing down to smell the roses? And even if we try to do both, where would we…
So much of our everyday life revolves around our relationships. Not just romantic partners; I’m talking about relatives, friends, and more. Meanwhile, much of our adult relationships are based on our childhood experiences. That’s when we develop the attachment style that can follow us for the rest of our life.…
Our culture is filled with some general, unwritten assumptions that can be unhealthy and even problematic. In terms of romance, we’re expected to find our soul mate and live happily ever after. That means, among other things, getting married and… having kids. When any aspect of this fairy tale is…
Helping couples thrive is a practice that’s been around for as long as there have been couples. Some advice is more enduring than others, of course. For example, John Gottman has been researching and guiding couples for a half-century. His work is widely known and respected. For some, it’s become…